Only One Thing Matters
It doesn't matter where, when or how much. It doesn't even matter who. What matters is how you want to feel. Start with the feeling and let the who, what, when and where fill the in-between.
Stop Focusing on What Doesn’t Matter
I used to work in public relations. I strategized and wrote content that would get our clients coverage on major mainstream media. I knew my stuff and I worked fast. I was good. One day I was in my boss’s office, and she leveled with me. After about five years of that work, she looked [...]
Be Nice
Nice gals finish first? Clichés have us thinking that if you’re kind and thoughtful, you definitely won’t end up in the corner office. But there is a benefit to being benevolent. Nice gals don’t necessarily finish last. A friend of mine was looking for help. Her nanny had left with not much notice [...]
Resurrect a Childhood Hobby
I used to make massive collages. In my childhood bedroom, my collages bloomed like an azalea over two entire closet doors. I would sit on my mauve carpeting for hours snipping things from magazines: words that spoke to me, images of the life I wished I was living, photos I thought were cool. I remember [...]
Keeping the Boogeyman at Bay
The disturbing dreams that cause you to lurch from sleep, breathless, drenched in sweat aren't just upsetting and disruptive to a restful night's sleep, they are actually bad for your health. Whether you experience falling, or running, or wading in slow-motion away from something scary that's chasing you (that’s my personal sleep maelstrom), stress dreams [...]
Take What You Need
You can't always get what you want / But if you try sometimes well you might find / You get what you need So much of the pain we suffer is evidence of a need that is not being met. We may not realize it in the moment, which is why we end up [...]