If I focus on what I don’t want, on what I want to change, then I am bound to the negative feelings associated with the thing I don’t like. The frustration, the dis-ease, the stuckness of where I am in that area of my life that I want to change. I bind myself to what I don’t want. So, I’ve come to the realization that I need to set my intention to effect change in this area of my life. And that’s all. That’s all for now. I don’t need to know how this change will materialize in my life, but I just need to be ready to act on whatever opportunities comes along to propel me in the direction of this desire.
Here’s the thing: there’s a lot of good stuff going on. But there’s still this one area of my life that’s nagging with discontent. So, I’ve acknowledged it, set forth my vision for the life I want to lead, released my fear, and am asking for guidance.
Without getting too specific in this public forum, all these were pretty big steps, in their own right. Acknowledging something’s not working goes against what I’ll call my Tim Gunn state of being. I’ve always been a make it work sort of person. But I’ve realized that I can do better than just “getting by” and “coping.” I can make genius work of my life, live an inspired exceptional existence. And maybe “making it work” means acknowledging something needs to change and letting go of what’s not working. It means knowing when to stop feverishly sewing, put down the steamer, toss your garment aside and start anew.
Fear is a huge aspect of change, so committing to set fear aside is a challenge, to say the least. Whenever a fear comes up, here is how I will deal with it. I will apply the question: What if that didn’t matter? What if that wasn’t for you to worry about? I think this will help me believe that everything will work out, if my goal is to live big and contribute positively to society, the rest will fall into place. I am supported, by the people around me and by the universe. A woman I used to work with used to say, “The universe is conspiring for your success.” Why not try to believe that?
Finally, the strangest aspect of this new approach for me is asking for guidance. Not in so much as I’m asking some non-physical entity for messages, but in that I’m not actively planning, scheming, and pushing my way toward my dream. I know I will take the next right action when it’s evidenced to me. I am willing to try something new. And from the slightest willingness…anything can happen.
